December Journal Prompts
Do you notice your dreams? Why or why not?
Have you ever had a dream that was sexual in nature? If so, how did it make you feel?
Do you believe that your dreams could illuminate pieces of your sexuality? Why or why not?
Have you ever had a dream that was of a sexual nature that felt negative, untrue to yourself, or contrary to how you desire to live your life? If so, describe it.
I believe that our sexual dreams can teach us many things. Read through these three descriptions and see if any of them connect to your heart and mind.
I believe that for the sexually integrated human, dreams sometimes allow us to explore our shadow side or “play the villain.” All the best fairytales have a villain. Have you had a dream where you “cheated” or lusted after someone who was not your partner? If so, what if you celebrated these dreams as an exploration of your inner villain and applauded your wisdom that keeps you from acting on these harmful or deviant behaviors in your “real life.” Even better - what if you share them with your partner and act them out as a sexual fantasy…
Which leads me to my second theory - sometimes our dreams are showing us a sexual preference that we haven’t been brave enough to lean into. Have you ever had a sexual dream that involved a power dynamic, position, or a sexual preference that seems bigger, bolder, or more extreme? Sometimes our bodies are asking us to lean into these playful and erotic expressions of ourselves. Will you listen?
Lastly, sometimes we have a dream that is helping illuminate how we have healed ourselves. Have you ever had a dream where you were with multiple lovers? Sometimes this is showing us pieces of our sexuality that we have successfully integrated! Dreaming of past relationships? Maybe you have become for yourself what before you looked for in a partner.
Take a moment and reflect on some of your sexual in nature dreams. What are they revealing to you?
Dreams can also help us heal wounds. Have you ever asked your body a personal or sexual question before bed? If so, what was it?
Regardless of whether you have tried this before or not, I’d like you to pose a sexual question to our body before bed and see if your own dreams provide an answer. (YOU ARE SO WISE!) Here are some gentle prompts of questions to ask your body before you go to sleep tonight.
What is the root cause of this sexual problem?
What possible solutions come to mind right now?
Why aren’t these solutions adequate?
How am I feeling right now as I think on this sexual issue?
Does it feel safer to live with the problem than to resolve it?
What do I have to lose if I solve the problem now?
What do I have to gain if I solve the problem now?
Is there anything that my future sexual self would like to tell me that could help?
