When love looks like loss…

Where are all the love songs about loving someone enough to let them go? (Please note - this entry is from 2020)

He went home. The man who held my heart never asked me to be more than I am. He left me to return to his home across the country - and it was right.

What would it mean if we embraced ourselves as enough? If instead of trying to morph into someones’s everything we let ourselves be all we need to be… and nothing more.

In my childhood I was indoctrinated to believe that true love looked like self-sacrifice. Romantic in theory - detrimental in practice.

Before, when I could not sacrifice myself enough to “keep someone” in a relationship I was left with feelings of inadequacy, confusion, and doubt. What was wrong with me? What was I failing to do?

No longer. Through deconstruction and rebuilding I have come to a peace with all that I am and all that I can be. [This is unpacked fully in Author Your Narrative - Register here to join the next group of students!

So I let him go and I let myself remain whole and healthy. Thankful for a loss that feels an awful lot like love.